Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence often is hidden because teenagers typically:

  • are inexperienced with dating relationships.

  • are pressured by peers to act violently.

  • want independence from parents.

  • have “romantic” views of love.

Teen dating violence is influenced by how teenagers look at themselves and others.

Young men may believe:

  • they have the right to “control” their female partners in any way necessary.

  • “masculinity” is physical aggressiveness

  • they “possess” their partner.

  • they should demand intimacy.

  • they may lose respect if they are attentive and supportive toward their girlfriends.

Young women may believe:

  • they are responsible for solving problems in their relationships

  • their boyfriend’s jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse, is “romantic.”

  • abuse is “normal” because their friends are also being abused.

  • there is no one to ask for help.

Early warning signs that your date may eventually become abusive:

  • Extreme jealousy

  • Controlling behavior

  • Quick involvement

  • Unpredictable mood swings

  • Alcohol and drug use

  • Explosive anger

  • Isolates you from friends and family

  • Uses force during an argument

  • Shows hypersensitivity

  • Believes in rigid sex roles

  • Blames others for his problems or feelings

  • Cruel to animals or children

  • Verbally abusive

  • Abused former partners

  • Threatens violence

(Provided by the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

Teen Dating Statistics

    • About one in three high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship.

    • Forty percent of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

    • In one study, from 30 to 50 percent of female high school students reported having already experienced teen dating violence.

    • Teen dating violence most often takes place in the home of one of the partners.

    • In 1995, 7 percent of all murder victims were young women who were killed by their boyfriends.

    • One in five or 20 percent of dating couples report some type of violence in their relationship.

    • One of five college females will experience some form of dating violence.

    • A survey of 500 young women, ages 15 to 24, found that 60 percent were currently involved in an ongoing abusive relationship and all participants had experienced violence in a dating relationship.

    • One study found that 38 percent of date rape victims were young women from 14 to 17 years of age.

    • A survey of adolescent and college students revealed that date rape accounted for 67 percent of sexual assaults.

    • More than half young women raped (68 percent) knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance.

    • Six out of 10 rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home, not in a dark alley.

    • More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involves non-married persons (Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence, May 2000)

Dating Safety

    • Consider double-dating the first few times you go out with a new person.

    • Before leaving on a date, know the exact plans for the evening and make sure a parent or friend knows these plans and what time to expect you home. Let your date know that you are expected to call or tell that person when you get in.

    • Be aware of your decreased ability to react under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

    • If you leave a party with someone you do not know well, make sure you tell another person you are leaving and with whom. Ask a friend to call and make sure you arrived home safely.

    • Assert yourself when necessary. Be firm and straightforward in your relationships.

    • Trust your instincts. If a situation makes you uncomfortable, try to be calm and think of a way to remove yourself from the situation. (From the Domestic Violence Advocacy Program of Family Resources, Inc.)

Safety Planning for Teens

You should think ahead about ways to be safe if you are in a dangerous or potentially dangerous relationship.

Here are some things to consider in designing your own safety plan.

  • What adults can you tell about the violence and abuse?

  • What people at school can you tell in order to be safe–teachers, principal, counselors, security?

  • Consider changing your route to/from school.

  • Use a buddy system for going to school, classes and after school activities.

  • What friends can you tell to help you remain safe?

  • If stranded, who could you call for a ride home?

  • Keep a journal describing the abuse.

  • Keep the number of the local shelter, number of someone who could help you and restraining orders with you at all times.

  • Where could you go quickly to get away from an abusive person?

(Provided by the Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence)

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